Christine is a mother, owner of two small businesses, teacher, and wannabe homesteader. She likes making things – from sewing to pottery, she’s always got one project or another in the works. Christine lives with her husband and two daughters in Port Moody, just east of Vancouver. Her latest creation, and what she spends most of my “free” time on is her family run skin care company, Lila Bare. She wants to ride her bike more often and wishes she had a chocolate tree. Read more…
Elasticpantcity is a cultural curation of the life of Michelle Gadd. Michelle is an urban dwelling, Vancouver housewife and mother of two rambunctious boys. Educated at Simon Fraser University with a B.A. in Psychology, Michelle initially planned to pursue a Master’s Degree in Clinical Counselling. God had other plans: first came love, then came marriage, then came the baby in the baby carriage. Michelle created Elasticpantcity as an outlet to write about life, from parenting to city living, fashion to frugality, food to faith, no subject is off the table. Michelle invites her readers to take a glimpse inside her life and be inspired by the beauty of art in the every day.
Bruna Myers was one of VancouverMom.ca’s Top 30 Bloggers from 2012. She is a First Grade teacher and a mom to three beautiful girls, Teen B, Little B and Little . She’s been married for 8 years to her best friend J.
Bruna has been teaching for 14 years at the primary level and can’t imagine doing any else. She loves kids (her own and other people’s) and learns so much from them every day. When not teaching, Bruna is also the CEO of the blog Bees with Honey and has been writing for it since October of 2010. Bruna also enjoys reading, spending time in the outdoors, shopping, nurturing her addiction of social media, taking photographs of her girls, tackling one-day projects and spending time with family. On Bees with Honey, Bruna shares her crazy journey through life. She writes about what inspires her, makes her happy or sad and what new things she’s up to or into as a teacher and mother of 3. She enjoys sharing the challenges she faces trying to balance a career and a family life.
Connie Peters is a mom of three girls in Vancouver. She founded Modern Mama (www.modernmama.com) in 2008 and Urban Infant magazine (Edmonton) in 2010. She juggles her daughter’s schedules around business and family time and the things she adores most about Vancouver are the Aquarium, Kits Beach and the supportive and collaborative mom-entrepreneur community here.
I would love to say I am one of those people who doesn’t watch TV…I wish I could go without, but with a full time job, contract work and two little kids (three if you count the husband!) I do love the ritual of flopping down on the couch with a glass of wine, tuning everything else out and just being entertained. Lately, however, I have been thinking more about how what I watch affects how I feel…and I know if certain shows make me feel a certain way, they must have the same affect on others, too. In particular, I’ve been evaluating the kinds of female characters I am drawn to, entertained by and actually like. Consequently, I am very aware of the ones I don’t!! So here are my top 4 detestable female TV characters.
When I recently started reading Ashley Judd’s response to media criticism surrounding her “puffy” face, I braced myself for the party-line response from celebrities who come under siege for their changing appearances. Seems there are usually two responses (1) mind your own damn business or (2) mind your own damn business. Instead, I read a response that was articulate, intelligent and inspiring.
Judd, who sates she has learned through the years to “abstain from all media” written about her (good or bad), took the opportunity to not just address the attacks on her own appearance, but to address the larger issue at hand. “The Conversation” (or #TheConversation – now trending on Twitter) about women’s bodies and appearance has become so engrained in our society. As women we, often without realizing, take pleasure in knocking each other down, criticizing each other’s appearances and speculating about what we are doing to maintain/achieve a certain “desirable” look. The pleasure that comes from this is normalized by reality TV shows like The Bachelor, The Real Housewives and others. I have often wondered if the women who sign up for these shows realize just what they are going to be subjected to…but after reading Judd’s piece, it hit me – they are already being subjected to it every single day…what difference does it make if it is in the public eye? It is plausible that some of these women might even feel that as long as they are getting attention it doesn’t matter what kind of attention it is. Misogyny, it seems, is what sells to today’s prime time audiences.
Next time you are having a “broad-bashing” conversation with your girlfriends about another woman’s appearance, think about this…that very conversation you are engaging in is a driving factor behind why women continue to feel the need to “alter” or “maintain” or “touch up”…it is a contributor to why we feel so bad about ourselves and need to tear others down to make ourselves feel better. Ms. Judd makes a good point that until we become hyper-aware of this fact, until we change The Conversation we are having, the normalization of misogyny, our acceptance of it and the pleasure we derive from it will never cease. As a mother, I fear what this will mean for my daughter and, ultimately, how she will feel about herself.
How do we begin to change The Conversation? Simple, age old advice, might be a good place to start. “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”…Oh, and, mind your own damn business.