I’m going to be participating in a discussion tomorrow on the Bill Good show about sleep training and letting your baby “cry it out.” A new study in Pediatrics has some “good” news:
…strategies that let babies cry it out for limited periods while teaching them to sleep on their own can help families sleep better in the short term without causing long-term psychological damage in kids or weakening the bond between babies and parents.
I “kind of” sleep trained both of my children. My daughter learned how to fall asleep on her own fairly easily. A big thing I remember, however, was that she would wake up in the middle of the night looking for her pacifier. When she couldn’t find it she would LOSE HER MIND…screaming the house down until it was popped back in her mouth. People told us we would never rid her of that habit…that we ought to lose the soother as soon as possible. We
politely ignored them. She gave it up (on her own) just before her second birthday.
Sleep training (like any kind of parenting tactic) is not easy. I was not very good at it. There were many nights when my husband was working that I would just lay my baby beside me letting them fall asleep. I would transfer them into their bed when they were asleep. I think you do what you have to do and what works for you and your family. For some people that is co-sleeping, for others very regimented sleep training…for me it was the “whatever works this week” approach (after all, it is a scientifically proven technique). I just couldn’t listen to my baby scream and convulse in an attempt to get them to fall asleep on their own. So I would rock, back pat, sing, sway and hand hold if it meant they could fall asleep in their own bed. For me, that was important…everyone in their own bed.
What are your thoughts? Do you believe in letting babies “cry it out” or are you against this method? I’d love to know your thoughts.
Tune in to the Bill Good Show on CKNW tomorrow morning at 11 AM to hear our conversation.